A parent’s realistic expectation of New Year’s resolutions.
As a parent, we naturally want what’s best for the children. We want them to be happy, healthy, and most of the time clean. I really don’t believe in making resolutions, simply because I don’t want to feel like a failure when they fail. But if I were going to make some, I think it would look something like this and the approximate amount of time before it goes to the wayside after the start of the New Year which will be abbreviated as ADTF (approximate destruction time frame.)
1. Eat more dinners at the table together. No media, no homework, just family time.
A.D.T.F.: 2 weeks because then our schedule will pick up, the kids will decide they don’t want to eat what I’ve made or I get behind on cooking and the dinner isn’t ready until bed time.
2. Raise my voice less.
A.D.T.F: One hour. Probably won’t even make it through New Years day before my exorcist voice will be heard throughout the house.
3. Less T.V. For the family.
A.D.T.F.: I’ll be optimistic and say two weeks before my nerves are too shot and I tell my kids to please go and watch a show in their room.
4. More family outings
A.D.T.F.: I’m not sure what the expiration date will be on this one because it really is dependent on whether or not it actually starts.
5. Exercise more:
A.D.T.F.: One month, unless chasing the three year old to his room when he’s misbehaving count as more exercise. Because I don’t see that his tantrums will slow down anytime soon.
6. Have more date nights
A.D.T.F.: As much as I would love for this one to actually get off the ground, logistics are terrible! Finding a babysitter, a time when the kids aren’t sick, when we have money, and when we have the energy to do more than stare at each other from each side of the table and repeat the same old things about our day (which doesn’t make it any easier since my husband and I both work in the same field so there isn’t a scenario we haven’t seen and discussed before) is an almost (seemingly) mission impossible. I guess I’ll settle for getting the kids both down by 8 and settling back on the couch for a glass of wine and a movie.
7. Get the kids involved in an after school program of their choice.
This one doesn’t even have an expiration date because although I’d love to do this for them, the logistics of getting them to and from said activities when we have one car and I work 10 hour days is just a nightmare.
8. Blog more often
A.D.T.F.: a couple of months of being consistent. That is unless my children give me a lot more material which could be a blessing but may also be a curse, especially if they are anything like this blog here.
9. Laugh more.
A.D.T.F: This one I don’t see falling apart and probably the only one. My family and friends can always make me laugh and as I tell my kids, find the laughter in day. =) Happy New Years everyone!