An open letter to my children for the future

It seems like every day, I read something about the bullying that goes on with today’s children and sadly, too often, it leads to a tragedy. I know that right now, you both are too young to understand what I am thinking (though one of you is rapidly approaching an age where I’m certain we will have to address the issue) but I’d like to get my thoughts down on paper.

Remember how you use to (hopefully still do) think it was cool that I am a writer? Well, let me tell you, I wasn’t always proud of that and, in my school, was frequently teased about it. I was considered one of the “geek” kids, though really, I didn’t get the grades to even be considered a part of the “geek” kids themselves. Hiding my talent under false guises was easy and I went through school virtually unnoticed.

Today, I strive to be noticed in the right ways. I will proclaim to anyone who asks what I like to do that I like to write. And yes, I write fantasy and urban fantasy. I keep my head in pop culture (I could tell you who the latest celebrity hook ups are or their baby’s names) but I am far less proud of this than I am to discuss how Gene Roddenberry revolutionized the brilliant ideas for products we use today. (Did I just admit that I’m a trekkie? Well.. yes, yes I did.) I am not a stereotype just like so many of the other people who secretly love things which society has deemed “nerdy” aren’t. I’m trendy, have more colorful high heels than any one person truly needs and love to socialize with good friends over happy hour drinks. But more than this, I own myself. I know who I am and I like myself. This is the key. Be who you are and be happy in yourself.

What is the importance of me telling you this? I hope that in my journey, I’m able to impart to you that whoever you are, you are wonderful. Don’t let others tease you to oblivion or discourage your dreams. Know that you have a mother who knows what it feels like to be teased and bullied and I’m here to tell you that when it’s all said and done, you will realize that there is so much more to life than all of that. I am here to tell you that no matter what, you are loved. Surround yourself with those who will lift you up and not put you down.

I know that in today’s media ridden world, it’s hard to get away from those who seek to make your life miserable. Cyberbullying is, unfortunately, a very real thing. A word of advice, don’t allow yourself to be bullied in your own home. Ignore it, turn it off, walk away. Say to yourself that you are better than what they are trying to make you believe. Say to yourself that you can come to me for help. Don’t hide behind false exteriors. If you cannot come to me, go to someone who you can trust.

In no way am I diminishing the experiences you are having. Life, at any stage, seems like it’s our most difficult challenge. Just trust me when I say it gets easier.

My hope, my dearest children, is that through the course of my parenting, I have taught you your self worth. I hope that there is never a day you face bullying with the sense that you are worthless. It’s my hope that you know you are worth so much, not just to me, but also to yourself. I hope that you have a mantra in your head which drives you forward and doesn’t let you be held back by the naysaying of this world. I hope that you can reach out for help and that you know that reaching out doesn’t make you weak. No, instead it makes you stronger. Hold your head up and on days when that seems almost too much to bear, lean on those who are there for you.

To my children, I eagerly look forward to the day when I can see the men that you both will become. We all face challenges and it won’t be for a very long time that I will get to see how I faced my biggest challenge: raising two young boys in our world. I hope and pray that your dad and I have raised you well to deal with any challenges you might encounter, though for both of you right now, your challenges are spelling words and potty training. And I know, I will be saying the same thing to you as I am now. Never give up; or as Walt Disney is known to have said “Just keep moving forward.”



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About J.Peterson

By day, I'm a mom of two boys (three if you count my husband) and a childcare provider. My adventures in parenting and the real world are primarily what this blog is about. My alternate ego, the one who is in my book(s), is a scythe bearing, magnificent shoe wearing, Soul Harvester by the name of Genesis. Though she knows nothing about parenting, her sarcasm rivals even my own. If you enjoy my blog, check her out on Amazon under the title of Death Inc. The life and Times of a Soul Harvester.

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